Scared and divorcing with Herpes

We never know what our future holds, and in essence, that is the fun of it. I understand this is a tough time for you, but you can not base your decisions on your diagnosis. It is not who you are, you can not let it control you. It will take time, and healing, but we all grow from tough times. We learn how to cope better, and how to rely on ourselves and the loving, caring, important people in our lives. You need to think about what is best for YOU, and your children, the rest will come with time!

ahhh sweetie, I am so sorry you are going through this. I know a thing or two about being in bad abusive relationships. It doesn't matter how sweet and nice men appear on the outside, how they keep in touch with you or your mom, what matters is how they are with you and your children in your intimate times....and he's not passing that test. Abusers always regret their behavior and always want to work things out...it's their pattern.

You have a lot on your plate right now and herpes should be the last of your problems but I want to re-assure you that there is a life with herpes. There are men that see beyond the virus...more men than you think.

I am dating someone that is not infected. I told him before our second date, he accepted it and we've been together for almost 4 months now. Before I met him I came across many men that did not have an issue with me carrying this virus.

There is happy life waiting for you, you just need to make a choice and go for it.

Go figure...the same week I lose my husband...I total my car on the way to work...It just keeps getting better. I was 1 payment away from paying my car off...LOL....I have to laugh...because I am all out of tears at this point. I had to put my car in the ditch to avod a truck from hitting me head on...in the process I jumped over a big cement block...drainage thing...NICE...well...at least I am alive and I avoided the head on collision...My 4 year old thought it was fun..he wanted to do it again. I wish I had his sense of humor right now. Oh..and just to give me a little more faith in the human race....the other driver didn't even stop. Wow...who does that? Oh well...we are alive..at least :)

Puts everything into a new perspective doesn't it...:)

I was pretty upset about the car...and in a way..I still am. However, my grandma is going to let me drive her car until insurance takes care of me and I find something to drive. Thank god for family! My kids are alive..I'm alive. It scares me to think of how close that was. I was going about 55...no telling how fast the truck was going. He must have been distracted on his phone ...or reaching for something. We missed each other by inches...It could have been ALOT worse when I think about it. So while wrecking my car is added stress I could've done without right now...maybe it was meant to open my eyes to the bigger picture.

I was pretty upset about the car...and in a way..I still am. However, my grandma is going to let me drive her car until insurance takes care of me and I find something to drive. Thank god for family! My kids are alive..I'm alive. It scares me to think of how close that was. I was going about 55...no telling how fast the truck was going. He must have been distracted on his phone ...or reaching for something. We missed each other by inches...It could have been ALOT worse when I think about it. So while wrecking my car is added stress I could've done without right now...maybe it was meant to open my eyes to the bigger picture.