Herpes, and Valentines Day.....:/

You need to be upfront with him or eventually it may all blow up in your face. Check with your doc to see the safe ways if you were to have sex eventually. Honesty is the best policy.

The best way to go about this is to tell him the truth, you can start by saying your caught a rash from your ex boyfriend and when he ask what kind you can explain it to him but whatever you do please don't fall apart or cry because he is going to think it is something that can kill you and we all know this is really not a harmful virus. Have all of your facts ready for him and be ready to answer all of his questions.

When you guys are ready to have sex you'll have to use condom and with that you're still not 100% safe it is only 50% but with you being on valtrex it cut down you passing it to him about 1% per year, you can also tell him this.

Keep in mind after you've told him he might need sometime to think about it and you'll need to give him that time, think about when you was told how you felt. If he is the right guy for you he will come around but remember if he can't handle this you'll have to move on.

I'm 46 with two kids a little order than you i have HSV 1 and 2 and i did have a hard time with this but i have move pass it and is going on with my life.

You're still young and there a lot of guys out there that will love you for who you are not what you have. Remember you have herpes, herpes don't have you baby.

Make sure you trust this guy because remember you guys at college and college kids talk you don't want him telling everybody on campus, you might want to know how he feels about safe sex and STD before telling him.

Get ready to answer his questions and have some facts again.

Good luck and welcome please keep us posted.

Might want to start with "ever had a cold sore?" then after he answers explain that you carry th virus that causes it but take meds to suppress it. Go into your statistics...call it hsv. Then as he gets comfortable with the conversation explain that it is a strain of the virus that causes chicken pox, shingles, and cold sores....also known as herpes simplex. If you throw out the word herpes too soon he may not hear anything else. lol

I have told several men and have not had a negative reaction yet. course...all my guys are old enuff to be ur dad. lol

You see thats the problem. This damn stigma. Another concern I'm having is the proper "place." I live in a dorm, and have no car. I don't want to be at his apartment when I tell him because then I have no way out, and I am super, super concerned about this spreading...the word of what I have that is. Agg I have so many questions, and some are super sexual and inappropriate and I don't know if it's okay to ask them on here. Clearly you guys are more experienced with this and have alot of great insight, thank you for all your great responses.

hey sweet heart tues was my 1st time on any support site to :t aftr datn a guy for 4 mnths i knew morally i was going to hve to tell him so he cud make a choice if he wanted me..finally told him tues n i never felt that type of compassion before he huggd me said he love me n not goin no where..u can do it!! :) i believe ur guy like for u is strongr than herpes :)

hey sweet heart tues was my 1st time on any support site to :t aftr datn a guy for 4 mnths i knew morally i was going to hve to tell him so he cud make a choice if he wanted me..finally told him tues n i never felt that type of compassion before he huggd me said he love me n not goin no where..u can do it!! :) i believe ur guy like for u is strongr than herpes :)

you can ask or say anything you want to on here darlin! bet if you go back and look you will discover we have asked and said it all! lol

Marniece!!!! omg congratulations that is wonderful! How did you say it if you don't mind me asking and being nosy.....okay well if you say so overwhelmed123.....lol is it safe to say I can never get oral again?! because that just might make me go indulge in some chocolate if I can't....

well...if you arent having an outbreak...and you take ur valtrex...the chance of you passing it to him during oral is about 2%. If you want to lower that and use protection they do make something for that called dental dam (reebok had to explain to me what that was. lol). Its a latex sheet used during oral on female. you can also use a condom but cut it open so it lays flat. Or saran wrap but dont know if that actually blocks virus. Will be honest...I have had sex unprotected...including oral and lots of it. The wilder it is the more likely it is to throw u into an outbreak...and it did. BUT the guy didnt get it from me. I guess the outbrreak happened the next day or so

please be careful WHO you choose to tell. guys that are very "into"themselves dont tend to be extremely understanding. make sure that whoever you choose to tell has the maturity to handle it discretely and rationally. does he handle other situations well? does he make fun of ppl with problems? thiink bout who he is before you tell him.