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I think that you should confront him and let him know because he could of been the one to give it to you and in that case he could be spreading it around to who knows who else. It will be hard and embarrassing but atleast you know you did your part and you could have helped another female from being completely shattered. My abusive x husband cheated on me and gave it to me, i went to my annual and they called me a week later telling me i have herpes. I still called him and told him because i knew he didnt know and it was the hardest thing i ever had to do but now i can sleep good at night knowing that atleast he will have to think about giving it to someone before he sleeps with someone and it could make a difference. It so life shattering us having to live with this and i constently am thinking about people who are going through the same thing and i just dont want anyone else to have to go through what we do.

Lexi & dday,
I don't blame you ladies for feeling the way that you do and trying to prevent someone else from contracting this virus.....BUT this is not the worst thing in the world...yes I have had 6 years to deal but I have come to the conclusion that this is not life threatening and I am determined to see the good in every mistake.

I look back at the last 6 years and how I made life changing decisions based off of this because I was ashamed...while my poor 18 year old cousin was dyeing of a rare cancer I was too worried about telling someone I had herpes so I married the guy that gave it to me. I bet my cousin wishes her diagnosis would have been herpes instead of cancer. Looking back on everything this is not the worst thing that has happened to me and I will be ok.

You ladies will be ok too. Let go of your anger and resentment and move on. You can't change the past so you might as well look into the future with an optimistic outlook.

Your right its not the end of the world, but at the same time its the start of a new life and its hard. You are having to constently think about it and how your going to tell someone or if u will ever find anyone who will accept you for it. But your right its definitly not the end of the world, and im very thankful for that,

Your right its not the end of the world, but at the same time its the start of a new life and its hard. You are having to constently think about it and how your going to tell someone or if u will ever find anyone who will accept you for it. But your right its definitly not the end of the world, and im very thankful for that,

Men often react first with denial. When I had my first outbreak I was seeing someone and his reaction was he never saw anything on him therefore he didn't have it and refused to go get tested.

This virus is so sneaky, my doctor and I thought this man I was dating gave me herpes but when the blood test came back my doctor said I had not been dating him for long enough for it to be from him.

You will probably never figured out where you got herpes so let go of that. Also, there is no 'confronting' your ex partners with this.......you inform them and they chose to do something with the information or not.

Life is far from being over. I've had more sex after herpes then before..;)